The world of internet dating has become a well known and socially acceptable way to meet potential dating, relationship, or marriage partners. Once viewed somewhat skeptically by many, meeting potential suitors online is commonplace today. In a busy and hectic world, it has almost become the preferred method of dating. Internet social and dating sites assist you in many ways by providing a profile template and encouraging clients to post their photos. Once you are “out there”, the search begins.
Search for a person or persons, who pique your interest. Then step one is to try to engage that person in a conversation or chat. In order to do this, the person you have chosen will want to review your profile and pictures to see if he has an initial interest in getting to know you better. If you both have that initial interest, then depending on the site, you can chat in live time or via e-mail.
How you communicate via chatting and/or e-mailing will determine if you end up actually meeting in real life (IRL). The first thing to remember is that your profile doesn’t contain everything that a potential suitor may want to know about you and visa versa. Also, most people don’t photograph exactly as they appear in person. In addition, personality doesn’t come through until you start to communicate. So here are some tips to chat your way into that first date.
Be Honest
Most initial online chats or e-mails should have at least one question that the other party is curious about and will be important to them. Answer it honestly. No, it is not necessary to write an entire essay on the subject. Some people do better with short answers and some longer ones. Address something that is important to you that is not in the person’s profile and encourage him to do the same with you in return. As communication progresses, continue to answer direct questions honestly. However, if you feel a certain question is inappropriate to ask at that time, say so. You might say something like “that’s a topic better discussed in person”.
Be A Little Flirty And Mysterious
Flirting, by its very definition, should be both subtle and overt. When you are flirting with someone online and not facing them in person, it is easy to go a little overboard. Don’t. When you are flirting with someone in a physical situation, such as a bar, gym, or party, it is fairly easy to assess their reaction to you. Online is different. So be subtle and direct, but keep things light. You can say nice things about a person, or things you think might be appealing to you about them that you know so far, but don’t talk in absolutes. Leave room for the imagination and reality.
Inject A Little Humor
Almost everyone likes someone with a sense of humor. No one wants to meet someone who is in a single minded pursuit of a date. Let the other person know that you think it would be fun to meet him and see how you relate in person. Then put the ball in his court. If he doesn’t run with it from there, move on. If you don’t have some kind of chemistry online, there’s no point to even going on a date.
Remember that an online dating site is going to assist you in your search. This means trial and error! Don’t expect to meet the love of your life the first time you go out on your first internet date. It’s just like the real world. Sometimes you have to go through a lot of frogs to get to the Prince. The good news is, that in today’s cyberspace dating world, the Prince is highly likely to be out there somewhere. You just have to find each other.
