Online Dating Blog
Online Flirting 101—Keep it Real, OK?
In the grand scheme of things, online dating, and more specifically, the online flirting it takes to even GET a date, are extremely new social entities. Thus, your average person has no real frame of reference for HOW to flirt online, much less how to do so with any degree of success. Thus, we have collaborated with Yahoo Personals to bring you some advice on how to make online flirting work for you.
The number one best (and most ignored) rule: be yourself. Perhaps the most common mistake that singles make when looking to connect online involves some sort of deception. Sure, when you are online, you can be anyone you want to be. You can make false claims, post fake pictures, and conduct yourself with bravado that you only feel when behind your online facade. If you are strictly looking for online chatting and nothing more, go nuts. But you must remember this: if you are actually looking for a relationship, you WILL have to meet in person, and then the jig is up. 
Singles surveyed for this article unequivocally stated that the most disappointing net dates they have been on involved the other party misrepresenting themselves.
If you have six-pack abs in your profile, and you show up in person with a beer belly, the odds that your date is going to respond favorably to you are just about nil. On the flip side, if you are open about your affinity for beer and make no bones about the fact that a big plate of nachos is more a part of your regular life than say, a 5K run, you are going to attract a partner with similar values. And let’s face it: that is what a relationship is all about. Sure, you may have a desire to hook up with a model, but if what you desire is happiness, then you should be looking to connect with someone like yourself, or who at least doesn’t mind what you REALLY look like.
It’s Raining Men—Hallelujah!
Hey, all you guys out there. I’m here to share my personal story of success regarding my experience dating online, and how you can make personal sites really work for you, too.
It all started eighteen months ago when my boyfriend of six years and I broke up. It was a gut-wrenching ending to a relationship that I thought would last my whole life. After it ended, I went into a three month tail-spin. I did nothing but sit in my apartment, eating junk food and feeling sorry for myself. Then a friend suggested that I make a profile on gay.com, and the rest, as they say, is history.
I was extremely hesitant at first, because I’m kind of shy and I’d never been on a site like that before. I had to be pushed into it, but then when I signed up and saw HOW MANY guys were out there looking for other guys, it encouraged me. Soon, cruising gay.com became a regular hobby of mine. I would get on at least every two days to chat, flirt, and just see who else was on there.
Soon, I started recognizing some familiar profiles, and lo and behold, some relationships developed. The more I chatted, the easier it became, and the easier it became, the more hot guys started to know my profile. Soon I was spending hours a day on this website. I would log in on my lunch break at work just to see what new messages I had waiting for me. I literally had over twenty guys in my area that I chatted with on the regular.
After several months of gaining my confidence back via online chats, I got up enough gumption to schedule a few dates. So far, over the past year, I’ve had at least one date every two weeks, and generally more than that. Sometimes, I go on three dates in a single week. Having been committed for so long, I’m continuing to keep my options open, but there are SO MANY possibilities for me out there.
I think that soon, one of my “casual acquaintances” may become something more. I owe everything to gay.com, and my best friend who showed me the way. I’ll keep you posted on how it goes…
Top Four Dating Mistakes for Guys
1.Even though she’s online, she still wants to be treated like a lady. Sure, it may have been three years since the last time you saw someone else naked, but remember that this is a person on the other end, and you are trying to make a connection, so be polite. The anonymity afforded by websites is great for people who lack confidence, but do not take it to a ridiculous extreme. You will not get anywhere with crude language and overt invitations to raunchy sexual exploits. Those things will come naturally if you act like a human being, and not a drunken old man in the front row at an old strip club.
2. Post YOUR picture. That’s right, fellas: we all want to look like the guy from the cover of the fitness magazine, but most of us don’t. And you know what? Women already know that. So here it is: get off your butt, work out as best you can, eat as best you can, take a real picture of yourself and post it. You should absolutely be making an effort to better yourself if you are looking to hook up. However, don’t post a picture of a Herculean man, hoping that you can make yourself look that way by the time you have to meet her. It’s not going to happen. Think of it this way, if you must: if the expectations are kept low, you rarely disappoint.
3. HOW much do you make? And this goes along with “WHERE do you live?,” “WHAT do you drive?”, “HOW big is your…?”, and so on. See above point regarding honestly and expectations. Seriously—you’re not fooling anyone in real life. The power of suggestion only works until they actually meet you…
4. Be patient. Most men are easily frustrated, particularly those on dating sites. There are lots and lots of lonely singles out there looking for the right person, so the key is to not get discouraged. You may have to sort through hundreds of Mrs. Wrongs before you find Mrs. Right. But there truly is someone out there for everyone, so don’t give up. Stay persistent, follow these rules, and it will eventually happen for you.
The Hottest New Trend: Online Infidelity
This is not exactly a novel idea, but it is one that seems to be gaining traction recently. Is the United States finally shunning it’s puritanical roots and embracing the more liberal social trends that have been abound in Europe for centuries?
On the whole, probably not, but there is a subversive element in our society today that is pushing for these relaxed social standards, and, most unsurprisingly, there seems to be quite a large audience that is interested. I am referring, of course, to the hottest new topic in online dating: mutually agreed upon infidelity.
In the past if one was married and looking to have an affair, one generally had to either pay for it or pose as a single on a normal dating site. If you’re already having an affair that you are looking to keep quiet, extra lies to maintain are not your friend, and neither is the stratospheric price of a professional. That is exactly the niche market that AshleyMadison.com is designed for.
This site, which has been talked about on such programs as Howard Stern, 20/20, Dr. Phil, and Larry King, just to name a few, fills a need where there was previously a void. This is a site specifically for those in a committed relationship who are looking for some action on the side. Here you are free to admit that you are not looking for “true love,” but rather someone to add some excitement to your life. From a professional standpoint, these guys get mega points for honesty and discretion.
You can even pay their fees in cash, so as to leave no trail. Sure, some may consider this service offensive, but to some, it’s a lifesaver. Besides the Europeans have lauded the idea of mistresses for thousands of years—it’s about time we started catching up.
Find a Wealthy Partner Online
“Is he who he says he is?”
Of the millions of questions we get here at Singles.com, this is arguably the most asked, particularly by women.
To be specific, many women are looking for assurances that they are not putting themselves out there online only to be disappointed by men who make false claims as to their looks, relationship status, and most importantly, their financial status.
Admittedly, most dating sites do not screen their prospective clientele based on anything more than location, likes and dislikes, or nonsense like astrology. For the discerning woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to say so, one must limit oneself to sites that provide a more rigorous screening process.
Enter DateAMillionaire.com. This is a site tailor-made for women (and a few men) who are absolutely certain that they deserve that seven figure lifestyle, and are looking for nothing but potential mates who fall into that economic category.
All profiles listed on this site are “guaranteed” to connect you to a seven-figure earner, and while nothing in life is guaranteed and a few losers certainly do slip through the cracks, this site is fairly conscientious about sorting out those who belong from those who do not.
So if you are a princess, you know it, and you’re looking for someone to treat you as such, do yourself a favor and skip the average personal sites. Instead, opt for a more selective dating site made specifically with your desires in mind.
The lesson here: do not be afraid to go after what you want, and more importantly, what you deserve.
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